Adoption procedures vary wildly, making each search unique. Since adoptions are governed by state laws, much depends upon which state is involved. In some states records are firmly sealed, in others they have been opened. When the adoption took place is equally important. A 1973 adoption in Illinois is far different from a 1945 adoption in New York.

If you hit a setback, regroup, and try to look at the pieces of your puzzle from a different perspective. Enlisting the help of other searchers will provide you a more objective view, as well as valuable advice from those who have already travelled the road you are on.

One crucial thing you should do is go back to every single person you think might know anything about the adoption. If you don't feel comfortable doing so yourself, ask your local search groups if anyone could do so on your behalf.

Be sure to keep your search documentation organized and up-to-date. It's the only way to keep vague and sometimes contradictory information straight.

Corroborate as much detail as you can. If you hear from one source that a birth family member was of a certain nationality, try to verify from another source. If you receive non-id information from more than one place, for example, you may be able to corroborate some of the details.

Read! Everything you can find on adoption, on searching, on reunion. This will help prepare you for what lies ahead.

Remember that the other party you are seeking is just as confused, scared, overwhelmed, and human as you are. Be respectful of them and their feelings. Honesty is the best policy. Take things slow, be open with one another.

Expect the unexpected. Assume your assumptions will be shattered. Don't take anything for granted. Don't give up hope. There are people who have searched for decades, only to have the right clue finally fall into place.

Remember that it's the journey, not the destination. Even if you don't find what you seek, you may discover you've already found your answers along the way.