If You Think Baby Selling Doesn’t Happen

This latest news from the AP only confirms what we’ve known has been going on in Guatemala and other countries for years, if not decades. And no, this is not an isolated incident – the only thing isolated about it is the fact that it’s being reported.

This article might be better titled, “Stolen Baby Linked To U.S. Adoption Market,” but that doesn’t go over so well with editorial boards, advertisers, and readers. After all, to say that there is anything wrong with the U.S. adoption system is tantamount to treason.

But nothing like this could happen domestically, right? Sorry, but the game is played everywhere. Check out this story from Kentucky last year.

Yum, nothing like terminating a parent’s rights without cause in order to grab those juicy federal adoption subsidies. How do these people sleep at night? There are similar cases occuring in Britain as we speak.

Then, you might want to read what a self-proclaimed Senior Mother (what others might call a “birth mother”) has to say about it.

And while we’re at it, let’s ask some adoptees, particularly transracial adoptees who might have just a bit to say about the impact of removing a child from his/her country of origin. (You think?! How come nobody ever asks the adoptees?)

Somewhere in the world, right now, a baby is being stolen, leaving a family in grief. All infant adoption is stealing – from the family of origin, and from the adoptee. Instead of promoting this twisted scheme, we should focus on supporting all mothers, regardless of social level or ethnicity.

If you’re considering adoption, ask yourself if you really want to continue the flesh trade of infant adoption. There wouldn’t be a market for it if there weren’t willing consumers. Mentor a child or volunteer – but please don’t expect that adopting a juvenile, but nonetheless human, being is going to solve your problems. And recognize that infant adoption is very, very different from foster care adoption, when parental rights have (one hopes) been terminated only because no other choice remains.

I hope you’ll remember:

Adoption is about finding a home for a child who needs one, not finding a child for parents who want one.

Parenting is a privilege, not a right.


  1. Triona, you have summed it all up well by writing, “Adoption is about finding a home for a child who needs one, not finding a child for parents who want one.” And you are so right in saying that “Parenting is a privilege, not a right.”

  2. http://bl says

    As an adoptee reading your blog, it is hard to not feel like a “product” of a market that works intently on resolving the issue of infertility. We are people, not gifts, not a commodity. We are born to mothers, not brought by a stork. I agree in your observation that these articles neglect to consider the perspective of the adoptee and as always —- what is in the best interest of the child.